What do you think of when your hear someone say or write about taking a journey to reinvent yourself?
I know that I always thought it sounded wild and extravagant, when it is actually pretty simple and just takes a little effort. Some people go on adventurous journeys and some just change certain things that they do or how they react and all of those small changes add up and result in a – voila – reinvented self. I am more excited than ever to share my thoughts on this because it is a topic close to my heart. So, let me start off with the fact that I am writing this today because I feel compelled to share with everyone some things I struggle with each day.
I hope this post will either bring you comfort in knowing there is someone else like you that is going through these same things, or do something good for your soul – whatever that might be.
I chose to use the phrase “reinvent yourself” because I have recently had a few conversations pertaining to this with my spouse. Lately, it has really started to sink in that after a year (or more) of us talking about what this means, I am realizing in order to live a happier life, this is a change I need to officially make. It is time to reinvent myself – or better yet find myself in the first place.
I have always been a control freak and in return I have always had a really hard time “chilling out”. The perfectionist in me doesn’t make the situation any better. I am also guilty of getting so caught up in the daily routine we create for ourselves that I forget that I always have the opportunity to re-invent myself and re-shape my life at any moment,
I wanted to share with you how I plan to take my life back from myself:
- Stop caring so much about what others think
- Seriously, stop sweating the small stuff
- Don’t let the struggle of finances beat you down
- Appreciate what you have and don’t dwell on the new “latest and greatest”
- Live a more minimalist lifestyle
- Get involved in more organizations in your community
- Break-free of the boring daily routine
- Travel, whether its around the world or in your state
- Pick-up hobbies you actually care about
- Be more spontaneous and adventurous
- Reach out to old friends/current friends and keep in better contact
- Stay connected to family
- Spend more quality time with my spouse/friends/family
- Put away technology and have real conversations
These are just some of the things that come to mind when I think about the things I want to change/improve upon for myself. I think that we all struggle in a sense. Struggle to be a good friend, a good spouse, a good family member, a good worker, a good member of society – the list goes on and on and on. Let’s face it, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make others happy or to at least complete our necessary daily tasks to keep things moving along in life.
What I am beginning to realize is, when we stop focusing on what we should do, how we should act, or pretty much trying to please “society”, we set ourselves free of all of the pressure we put on ourselves each day.
Now, I am not saying that I believe everyone should abandon all of their responsibilities, morals, etc. and throw all caution to the wind. But, I do think that once we realize that this “societal pressure” to be a certain way or live a certain life, is something that we don’t necessarily have to live our lives by, we become free to be the people we truly want to be.
It is going to be a very challenging and potentially long journey that I will take myself on to make those changes to my self and my soul that I listed above, but I know I can do it and so can you.
I would love to hear any thoughts, feedback, or advice you have about what it means to you to reinvent yourself.